Why we miss our childhood

“Childhood”. The word fills your heart with so much of delight and handful of memories. Everyone surely has a different reason to cherish his/her childhood.

1. Innocence

“Every child comes with the message that God is not yet discouraged of man”, said Rabindranath Tagore. Tagore’s words can’t be overlooked. It highlights the innocent, divine and beautiful life a child leads. It clearly rates this phase over all others. Childhood’s greatest advantage is its innocence. A child’s life is prattle, scribble, laugh, play and enjoy. He is innocent. He is unaware. He is pampered. He is protected. Adults lack the innocence of childhood. A child’s greatest virtue is his innocence. It can never be attained again. This makes his life pure and beauteous. Innocence that a child has can be never got back at any stage of life again. The key to all his happiness is his innocence. This makes it the most significant reason to miss one’s childhood.

2. Free of troubles

A child is free of all troubles. He is a responsibility of his parents, and he has no responsibilities of his own. He hardly has anything to care about, dresses, looks, money, living, relationships or house. This is a major reason to miss childhood. The biggest fear of every one’s life is worries, and childhood is totally abstained from them.

3. Memories

What makes every special moment so special? What makes life worthwhile? What makes relations important? Why do we need pictures? To all these questions, is a common answer. Memories. Memories are what makes a life meaningful. A bunch of beautiful childhood memories, a huge photo album containing childhood pictures, can perfectly make your day. Childhood memories are the most beautiful ones, for its innocence, fun, love and carelessness. These memories are ironically the most faded ones. Though, they are unique. Infact they make the most special set of memories for any person’s life.

4. True friends

At workplace or college, we hardly get what we call a true friend. We all aim to excel, after school. We all are competitors. No one really is a well wisher. Though this competition is there even at school, it becomes a competition for life after that time. This is a cut throat world. We all live to survive the best way. Everyone’s first motives become self driven, leading to loss of real friendship. The selfless, carefree, friends forever, at school, can never be gained again in life. Also, the long years one spends at school and home, with a common bunch of friends, makes childhood friends closer than any other. They know each other the most and the understanding and bond one shares with them can very rarely be regained in the latter life.

5. Guided

Children need guidance, because they are children. As a child grows up, he slowly separates from his parents. He has to take his own decisions and decide things for himself all alone. This becomes difficult many times, leading one to wrong decisions. At such stages of life, we really miss being kids. We miss being under the evergreen guidance of our parents and teachers. With age, comes self respect. We can’t afford to depend on others for every little thing. We have our own deal of responsibilities and issues. We have to look after them on our own. These things makes a grown up. We get independent. But at many stages of life, this independence, that we always yearn for as a child, becomes a burden for us. We miss the expert guidance of our parents. We miss the warmth of their support. Though a parent never leaves his child alone, emotionally, with changes in life, all time guidance is lost by a child.

6. Protected

A child is under the shadow of his parents. At school he is protected by hundreds of teachers and staff. This is a big thing. One cannot always go out everywhere with his parents. He can’t depend on them, forever. He can’t always be protected at school. As we grow up we are freer. “With freedom comes great responsibility”. In this world, this freedom has become so much more dangerous. Situations change, a girl has to step out of her house, and she is treated like a public entity. She is molested, she is harassed. Her life is ruined. She is traumatised for life. Though today even children are not free of this. Another example is of the life we lead in hostels. Many thousands of children leave home and go to colleges to off places. And many of them get into troubles, trapped in wrong habits. They end up ruining their life. All this is only a result of the lack of shelter a child gets from his parents, because since he loses protection, and gets freedom, he/she is not always capable of dealing with it successfully, sometimes under the societal circumstances, sometimes under moral and emotion circumstances.

7. Small world

A child’s world is limited. He is confined within the little world of his. Playing, school and a bunch of funny little friends is what he has. He knows fun, love, play, happiness and school. That’s where a child’s world ends. It starts, and it ends. It is less. And “less is always more”. Children live a restricted life, with fewer things to do. What does a child have to do? Get up, go to school, play, study, eat and sleep. End of his world. He has no obligations or responsibilities. He is free to choose what he wants to do, for the limited number of things he has. While, after growing up, our world expands, there are hundred things we have to do every day. Many of them are just obligations, many of them are just responsibilities. We have to do them even if we don’t like them. We have to be concerned for our duties. Thus, everything changes with time, making childhood a stage to be missed the most.

8. Unaware

As we say “ignorance is bliss”. Though the phrase is a negative one, a child’s ignorance to the world can prove that ignorance really is bliss sometimes. A child is unaware of the world. He has negligible worldly concerns. A child’s life is free of all the vices of this world, like, greed, ambition, pride, corruption and wealth. This ignorance that comes to him naturally makes the key to his happiness. It is vices that trap us, and virtues that free us. A child’s strength is his unawareness.  A child has no idea that such things exist. This being a major reason for us to miss childhood, for never in life can one get back to that stage, where he won’t be wrapped in all the filthiness of the world. With childhood, passes the unconscious life where there are only smiles and goodness.

9. Closer to family

A child is always close to his family, atleast to his parents/ guardians. This closeness makes his life a lot easier and nice. One can share everything with their parents and doesn’t have to face troubles alone. There are no burdens on a child’s shoulders. He can speak about every problem to his/her parents. This is because a child’s issues are such that they can be shared with parents. But as a child grows up, he feels the lack of understanding, generation gap and difference of opinion. With education and exposure a child builds his own opinions, and they often contradict with his parents. Due to these reasons, a child alienates himself from sharing and opening upto his parents at the latter stages of life. Also, with time, he gets separated from his parents. Studies, job and marriage, are the various reasons why a child, as he grows up has to leave his/her family and move to another place, thus getting geographically separated. A child though, always misses the closeness and warmth he/she had with one’s parents after attaining the age when they have to be independent for all reasons.

10. Subtle

It is famously said, “If you give some time looking at the simple things, they are the most beautiful ones”.  Childhood is one of those simple and beautiful things. The reason to miss childhood lies in its subtleness. A child’s life is simple, in not one or two but many ways. He has no troubles, no concerns, no emotional or mental pressure, he is free of all complexities. A child’s undeveloped mental and emotional mind is a big cause for this. The simple lifestyle, grounded aims, unaware heart, unstirred emotions, freedom from social restrictions and tenderness of life makes childhood a thing to be missed always.

Learning English is Must to survive in this world

The universal language, English is indeed the most prevalent language in the world. Looking at its largest number of speakers, it is acknowledged as the primary language, internationally. English has become the chief language today, for the global trade, social media networks and websites, science and research centers, educational institutions and for maximum number of immigrants and travelers all over the world.

English language is rapidly spreading worldwide for several crucial purposes and there are multiple reasons why one must learn English. So, here are the top most important ones.

1 . ENDOWS SOCIAL STATUS

At most of the places, in social parties, family gatherings and official meetings, English speakers are highly regarded and coveted. The people who are good and fluent at speaking English, doubtlessly surpass the others. Appropriate knowledge of English has become a status symbol apart from being simply a useful secondary language in almost all the countries of the world. Adept English speakers in all such social circles are highly admired and looked upon with respect as it is really good as well as important to know this internationally used language.

2. FOR PROFESSIONAL PROGRESS

One of the most important benefit of learning English is its use in every single professional arena. It is the widely accepted language that must be known to anyone aiming for a bright career and a progressive professional background. Employers in the corporate world, educational institutes and in the fashion or film industries seek for applicants having good command over English. The candidates knowing english are preferred mainly for the jobs in translation, travel, international business and for other exciting and creative positions.

3. ACCESS TO COMPUTER

For anyone desiring to have access to the computer applications, it is a must to learn English as almost all the computer software programs and applications are created using the English language. If one wants to hone his/her computer knowledge then he/she must be skilled enough in English for understanding the terminology and commands that are written in English. The bulk of computer’s applications and all knowledge is in English and can be easily incorporated by learning English.

4. ESSENTIAL FOR ECONOMY AND BUSINESS

In the present economy, statistics show that an average of 22 out of 30 companies say that English is of great essence for a business to thrive and for an economy’s growth. This is because it provides much wider ways, not only to trade effectively in the international market but also to express and discuss business issues efficiently. Most of the memos, transactions, business emails, reports and documents are written in English. Moreover, nowadays when there is a rapidly spreading trend of outsourcing or overseas jobs then aspirants adept in the language can make money by participating in the business deals taking place in the western countries.

5. ITS ADVANTAGEOUS WHEN YOU TRAVEL

English is the most widespread language in all parts of the world. And, this is the reason why it is used very commonly by the travelers and tourists. Local people of most of the countries use English to communicate with their visitors. If you can proficiently communicate in English then it becomes quiet easier for you to enquire about accommodations, rents or food, anywhere you go. There is a better opportunity for you to explore more freely about the places you travel and you need not be entirely dependent on some guide who can convey to you in your native language.

6. HELPS IN UNDERSTANDING CULTURE

The English language helps in understanding various emerging as well as the most ancient cultures of the world. English language itself determines the culture and civilization of the place of its origination and of the places where it is spoken. Thus we can say that this language provides an insight into the niceties of the lives the people in the world. English being a globally accepted language holds a special significance in writing up of books that describe various shades of different civilizations. Also, when most people are familiar with the language then there is more opportunity for everyone to express their own culture to the world.

7. INTERNET USES ENGLISH

Access to Internet provides an instant way of gathering any kind of information on various topics and there is an ultimate need of being familiar with the English language in order to access that information over the web. Today, approximately 55% of all the written content on the internet is in English. Therefore, if you know English then you can have a much better and faster approach to the subject matter available on the web. Moreover, we can notice the rise in use of the language by the internet users with the growing popularity of the social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter.

8. EDUCATION AND RESEARCHES

There are a huge number of universities, colleges and research institutions all over the world that use English as a means of teaching and performing researches. It is easier for professors, teachers or educationists well versed with the language to participate in forums and discussions, English language being the means of scientific and educational discourse. It is well known that English is the language of science as 90% of the scientific journals are written in English and one must cognize it in order to excel in science and day-to-day technology.

9. USED IN ENTERTAINMENT AND MEDIA

The media today uses English language as a medium for a large number of films and entertainment programs. It is one of the good reasons for learning English that, majority of world’s top movies and entertainment shows are being produced in English. Even various movies produced in different languages are being watched all over the world with English subtitles. Apart from the world of media, English is also primarily being used in publishing books and magazines. Several captivating and highly informative books, today are published in English.

10. GLOBALLY ACCEPTED

English is the only language dominating the International business and political structure throughout the world. Most of the countries in the world, despite having their own languages recognize English as a major language for communication. It is the globally accepted language that can be regarded as an important medium of information either it be business, academics, science and research, transportation, politics or entertainment.

Tips when you are going for your First Interview

As interviews provides employment opportunity, confidence in candidates, the overview of the office and the atmosphere so that the candidate can either reject or accept the job and it helps job seekers to get contacts as well. Hence once has to always to be successful in interviews. Many people, who pass through entrance exams, fail in interviews and get chucked out, especially when it comes to software professional seekers and IAS aspires. The interviews are very crucial and one has to be ready and full fit to face any sort of questions from the panel. So go through this if you are attending any interview as these are the top tips when you are going for your first interview.

1. First interview rejected, ask yourself why? 

Being your first interview you might not be a winner. This world is huge and about the competition it is needless to say. In spite of working hard, following rules and still not in. Don’t get desperate analyse on the thing which really went wrong.  Look back on your interview and think about what you could have done better, prepare a small report. Here is any number of reasons someone might not hire you so never get desperate and lose your hope and confidence, review the first experience and think it as a learning experience for the next interviews. You never know that you might deserve something bigger and better.

2. Never give up, always follow up:

They tell we will let you know about your job status soon. So, it is your responsibility that you follow up afterwards. Never lose hope, try hard and make them remember who you are along with your resumes and portfolios. After that have a courtesy and gratitude of wishing them thank you irrespective of any result. But try following up if your status is on stay, never give up! Be patient and hope for the best. Keep in mind, just attending successful interview is one part and after that how you follow up and contact them and await is the later part. Follow up in sense don’t bug but keep reminding and you will surely get a response soon.

3. Pay/salary/wage, talk about it later:

It is a universal truth that we all want to work to earn and lead our life. That is why you apply for jobs and work. Money is the oxygen of the living world. But, my pal don’t ever right away go into the discussion of monetary matters. You will be getting time to think and they would surely mention, sometimes several times of interviews are held if you talk about wages/salaries in the beginning it gives an image that you are just meant for earn and not to learn!

4. Keep calm and face the interview:

 

They pass through return test, entrance, email interview but when it comes to viva people stress over this interview. Always keep this mind that you are the best bet is that have to continue to be the best, convert and get into the professional version of yourself, and face the interview as an adventure, experience, lesson etc. In this way you are surely likely to learn something new and useful for present and future as well, even if you are not the right one for that job.

5. Small things matters a lot:

Your speech is good, smile is good, and attire is fine. In spite, if you don’t give a firm handshake gives the meaning of the lack of confidence. So have a firm hand shake, you might have the tension that it is a first interview, but never show it up, have a confident and smooth body language and have an eye contact when you are answering questions which again shows up your daring nature. And don’t mind bringing a planner or pad of paper and a pen. This way, you can take notes or even write down your questions if you tend to get nervous at times. This helps a lot. Even though all these are small things but these are reasons for big success.

6. Emphasize on your assets and strengths:

One has to be humble and be down to earth naturally. But, for a few hours during the time of interview forget this concept, promoter yourself, self appreciate yourself. Not that over boast yourself, but showcase your talents and exhibit your skills. Remember that potential is actually more valuable than experience: if you can show why you’re a promising hire, you’re in. This has to be your agenda, talk about your assets and strengths. Good that you carry your resume and portfolio with you depending on your field.

7. Smile and enthusiasm:

A simple genuine smile will always win the hearts. So, have a genuine smile and have a friendly approach. Even they try to bully you, continue the smile and try answering them confidently and clearly. Smile is the symbol of confidence and ego free nature. So hold on with your smile and make the atmosphere happy and cool, but do not be over smart or over funny. Enthusiasm, though your smile conveys it. Be quick, sharp and creative at that time. Have that eager enthusiasm and zeal and show them that you are the perfect filler for their vacancy. This is possible through that enthusiasm and josh which is automatically followed by the “Smile”.

8. Research and preparation:

Read and read about the company/agency/organisation which will be interviewing you. Yes, it really works big time.  Once you are in front of the panel members if they start asking questions like why do you deserve a job here? Etc. Now value of the research is felt, as you can proudly talk about the history of the company and their prospects, their requirements etc.  So research the maximum about the org and prepare your own questions on what you have researched. Coming to my personal experience which I would like to share where this tip really worked, when I applied for an internship, I got a mail asking to attend an interview( a small friendly kind) after a few minutes I came to know that I  an intern of that org. The last compliment told from the head to me was , “I am very impressed by the way you have researched about our agency” (I mailed my research presentation along with the CV) . So in this way it works, give them the feel that you really mean a lot to be part of their company with a passion and you have to be real as well. So, just don’t blindly attend an interview. Try to know more and more about the org so that you do feel inspired about the place and the wish to work there becomes more firm.

9. Attire:

 

How you dress up shows what you are. So always be particular and cautious about your attire when it comes to any sort of interview. As soon as you enter the first things the panel notice after your facial expressions is how do you look? That forms an image about you. So, best way is go for formals! At the same time you can be semi ethnic formal. But if it comes to business interviews go for absolute formals. Tie speaks about the dignity on the individual so make sure all the matching and fits right for you. And some big org does have dress code for interviews as well and then never ever fail to follow it if you really want to be there in future. Hence, the attire is very important aspect, you might be the icon of the fashion, trendy outside but once you are between four walls to become a professional, be the icon of dignity, loyalty and decency.

10. Perfect punctuality:

Punctuality is the building block of the success. This is the most anticipated aspect when you are going for an interview. Never be late, if you are late be it for any reasons better return back to your home. The more punctual you are the more discipline you seem to be. If it is possible just go the place (company/org) the day before your interview and make sure that you are sure about the place. And have a check on time, which helps you to plan out on the main day. And be half an hour early. That makes you feel comfortable to the environment. And you will have that crucial free time before getting into the interview. This also reduces your stress. Be one time and practice yourself.